Well it’s not particular news that bullying goes on in many ways, face to face and cyber, both in school and work! Just recently we heard that in the last year, reported cases of self-harm have increased 30% in young people under 17, which is probably greatly caused by bullying, and in particular, cyber-bullying. How does this happen and what can you do about it?
The real worry is that people begin to believe these bullies, who pathetically pick on someone, usually because they feel so bad about themselves that they need to project it on someone else. However, there can only be a bully if there is a victim.
IF IT HAPPENS, TELL SOMEONE
You probably already know that you should tell someone from talks you may have had in school or perhaps discussing it with your parents. Do not become a victim of it. I’ve placed some links at the end of this article that will give you some help line numbers. If you feel threatened contact the authorities and tell them that you are frightened, there are many ways to deal with it, self harming, blaming yourself and becoming depressed is not dealing with it, that’s victim hood.
TO PREVENT IT, WORK ON YOURSELF
If you feel you could become a victim you MUST work on your self-esteem and your self-worth. It may be that you are the ‘quiet’ type and don’t really bother with others too much. People may think because of this you are an easy target, well not if your self-worth is strong. This is something that you cannot work on early enough in your life. Whatever people say or do YOU MUST ACCEPT YOURSELF as a VALUABLE HUMAN BEING who has RIGHTS and who exercises them.
Stand up for yourself, look them in the eye, even if it feels fearful, if you don’t NOW, when will you? People do not realise that talking about it to teachers, parents and decent friends, is the way forward.
Once you have unburdened what you are going through it already feels better, however, the really healthy thing here is that you have taken action, therefore, control in your life, this alone helps boost and reinforce self-worth. The bullies must STOP, if they stop targeting you, they will find someone else, unless that someone else also reports it.
If you are in that situation now and need some help, seek it, or please get in touch with me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org (this will be private). Any comments/experiences that you may like to share on this post feel free to do so. All posts are vetted before being published.
Whatever happens, NEVER take it out on yourself, it’s THEIR problem, don’t let them wear you down. Take action!
The following are some links you may find useful: