Here is the transcript of the video…
Here is the transcript of the video…
How often do you take a sly look at your phone when the teacher’s back is turned? It’s so tempting isn’t it…
What are the chances of your teacher saying “get your phone out and let’s start connecting!” ?
Well it’s not particular news that bullying goes on in many ways, face to face and cyber, both in school and work! Just recently we heard that in the last year, reported cases of self-harm have increased 30% in young people under 17, which is probably greatly caused by bullying, and in particular, cyber-bullying. How does this happen and what can you do about it?
The real worry is that people begin to believe these bullies, who pathetically pick on someone, usually because they feel so bad about themselves that they need to project it on someone else. However, there can only be a bully if there is a victim.
IF IT HAPPENS, TELL SOMEONE
You probably already know that you should tell someone from talks you may have had in school or perhaps discussing it with your parents. Do not become a victim of it. I’ve placed some links at the end of this article that will give you some help line numbers. If you feel threatened contact the authorities and tell them that you are frightened, there are many ways to deal with it, self harming, blaming yourself and becoming depressed is not dealing with it, that’s victim hood.
TO PREVENT IT, WORK ON YOURSELF
If you feel you could become a victim you MUST work on your self-esteem and your self-worth. It may be that you are the ‘quiet’ type and don’t really bother with others too much. People may think because of this you are an easy target, well not if your self-worth is strong. This is something that you cannot work on early enough in your life. Whatever people say or do YOU MUST ACCEPT YOURSELF as a VALUABLE HUMAN BEING who has RIGHTS and who exercises them.
Stand up for yourself, look them in the eye, even if it feels fearful, if you don’t NOW, when will you? People do not realise that talking about it to teachers, parents and decent friends, is the way forward.
Once you have unburdened what you are going through it already feels better, however, the really healthy thing here is that you have taken action, therefore, control in your life, this alone helps boost and reinforce self-worth. The bullies must STOP, if they stop targeting you, they will find someone else, unless that someone else also reports it.
If you are in that situation now and need some help, seek it, or please get in touch with me directly at email@example.com (this will be private). Any comments/experiences that you may like to share on this post feel free to do so. All posts are vetted before being published.
Whatever happens, NEVER take it out on yourself, it’s THEIR problem, don’t let them wear you down. Take action!
The following are some links you may find useful:
Last time we discussed Strategies For Exam Success I promised to help you to learn and revise better.
Do you have a revision plan or not? If you do, please let us know what works for you (using the reply box at the end).
If not, may I suggest an excellent way to study and recall the information during exam time, allowing the brain to work at its best:
The following process takes a while to explain but it is actually quite simple and soon it will become second nature. You’ll also see the benefits when you need to study for extended periods. Continue reading
Last time in Why is it harder to remember answers during an exam? we saw what happens in the body when we are stressed or scared.
This time let’s find out some of the things you can do to reduce your anxiety and feel more in control and relaxed, yet alert.
Before and during the exam
I wished I had learnt how my brain worked when I was at school…
If the brain is so incredibly sophisticated and powerful, then why can it let us down when we need it the most?
Now imagine: It’s exam day… you’ve done all the revisions and prepared really well, but you feel stressed.
This is what happens:
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This has to be one of the best kept secrets this side of the Thames!
Last Saturday, as part of Open House 2013, I went to an open day at Radnor House School in Twickenham. It was fabulous, the school itself is a listed building adjoining Pope’s Grotto, however, it is the location, right by the river, that really wowed me, fantastic!
We started in the little café in the school with a cappuccino and a variety of wonderful cakes (made by the school chef ). This opened onto a lovely terrace right on the Thames with great views and where we could just sit, drinking coffee and watching the world go by. This is open to the students and parents as well as staff, aren’t they lucky?
We were shown around by the Head Master Mr Paton, who was accompanied by 2 students. I must mention Amy (I think that’s her name). I lost my husband somewhere along the way and she was incredibly helpful, escorting me back to the grotto, “in case I got lost in this place”, I can definitely see her being terribly organised later in life, she was so lovely!
Her helpful attitude started me thinking about what school children might consider as their strengths. I don’t just mean in school lessons, but as a person. You know, most people tend to put themselves down, telling themselves things like; “I’m not good/confident enough”, “No one likes me, I’m not popular”, “Classmates think I’m weird”, “I’m useless as sports”, etc..
This won’t help with confidence, will it? As a little exercise, right now, list all your good points and strengths, never mind about what others think, what do you think. So,for example, you might say: I’m polite, helpful to adults and schoolmates, I’m a good listener, I’m humorous, I don’t take myself too seriously, I enjoy my differences, I’m organised, I’m good at expressing myself, I’m considerate, I think deeply before making decisions, I’m gentle, I’m happy, I’m enthusiastic, a trier, etc.
You may not realise it, but all of the above are ‘soft skills’, that is, ‘people’ skills that we all need in life. They are often underestimated but are very valuable both in life and the work place, after all, think how important it is to be able to ‘get on’ with people, anywhere. They matter as much as academic achievements.
So what are your ‘soft skills’ and what would you possibly like to strengthen?
Let us know.